Let me start with saying, these damn kids!
I have two toddlers (2 & 3). My youngest is a 2 year old boy. If you know, you know. Every day he wakes up and thinks who he is going to torment and which episode of Jack Ass he's going to reenact. My oldest is a 3 year old girl. She's calm, sassy, but very chill. She doesn't have a bunch of fear, but she's just chill. She's a "go with the flow" type of kid.
I'm a working single mom, so I get home after talking to patient's all day and be a mom. My son is 100% the entire time he is awake, never less. He is the mastermind behind my 3 year old doing anything naughty too.
I am trying my damn hardest to balance out being the disciplinary/nurturer all at the same time. Shit ain't easy, am I right? Orrrr am I right?
I feel like at this point, my kid's and I have a healthy balance of discipline and nurturing. They know I don't enjoy sending them to their room or putting them in time out. Well, sometimes they might think I like it. They know that I love them more than anything. At least I always hope so!
Your children know you love them more than anything! I swear, even when it's hard to see that! Think of it like this: You were meant to be a mama, THEIR MAMA. Not anyone else's. You were given the perfect kids for you, they were given the perfect mommy for them. When things are hard, when you're feeling overwhelmed, when you're feeling stressed, think of this: Your kid's are grown and they're doing their own thing. They slam their doors, they have no desire to sit on the couch and snuggle you, they don't even particularly like you 99% of the time. Or they're out of the house, having babies of their own (animals or humans), getting married, going out with friend's, and they don't come back to visit mama too much. Remember these times of being stressed out, overwhelmed, and difficult times. Remember looking into that little messy face, full of chaos and love. Think of just getting to have all of the love, chaos, noise, laughter, tears, running around, and toys everywhere just once more. To spend one more day in what you think is absolute chaos now.. There is something about that, that brings me peace and tears all in one. Something about knowing one day it will be different.
Soak in all that chaos, mama. I know it's hard. I know it's exhausting, you feel like you're failing, like you're burning out. Know that you are doing the best job. If you have to lock yourself in the bathroom for a few minutes to take a breather- do that too!
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